Why Back-to-School Transitions Are Hard for Kids: A Parent’s Guide
We know that heading back to school can be a big shift for your child (and for you!). Transitions—like moving from holidays to school routines—can feel like a lot to handle. But don’t worry, we’re here to help make things clearer and a little easier for everyone.
What are Transitions?
Transitions happen any time your child switches from one activity, place, or task to another. They’re a normal part of life, but for kids, they can feel overwhelming—especially during big routine changes like back-to-school.
There are three types of transitions your child navigates every day:
Physical Transitions – Moving from one place to another. For example, heading out the door to school or climbing into bed at night.
Mental Transitions – Shifting focus or switching gears. For instance, going from a fun activity (like playing a game!) to homework time (boring!).
Emotional Transitions – Adjusting feelings. For example, stopping something they love doing, like screen time, to start something less exciting, like getting ready for school.
Why are Transitions Hard for Some Kids?
For All Kids:
Changes—especially big ones—can throw off any child’s sense of comfort and predictability. Back-to-school routines mean early mornings, new environments, and more structure. It’s no wonder they might struggle at times!
For ADHD Brains:
Transitions can be extra tricky because ADHD children often find it hard to “switch gears.”
Physical Transitions: They might stay hyper-focused on something fun and not notice time flying by.
Mental Transitions: Shifting focus can feel overwhelming, especially if they’re leaving something enjoyable or starting something they’re less excited about.
Emotional Transitions: Getting “stuck” on big feelings, like frustration or excitement, can make it harder to move on from one activity to another.
For Autistic Brains:
For some autistic children, returning to school can be easier due to the clear structure it provides compared to the often less predictable environment at home. However, transitions might feel overwhelming because of sensory sensitivities, routines, or changes to familiar patterns.
Physical Transitions: Moving to a noisier environment (like recess after being in a classroom) can be overstimulating.
Mental Transitions: Routines are comforting, so surprises or changes—like a new teacher or new peers—might feel unsettling.
Emotional Transitions: When things don’t go as expected, anxiety can make transitions even harder.
You’re Not Alone
If transitions feel challenging, remember this: it’s not about deficits—it’s about brain differences.
Kids with ADHD often bring incredible focus and creativity to the things they love. Kids with autism thrive when they have clear routines and can engage deeply with their passions. These are strengths, not weaknesses.
By understanding how your child experiences the world, you’re giving them the tools to navigate it confidently—and that’s an amazing gift.